Erik ten Hag will take time out from his new job at Man United to remember a lost friend

Ten Hag, then 19, learned the devastating news when his team-mate at FC Twente, Edwin Hilgerink, knocked on his front door in the small town of Haaksbergen where they were brought up in the east of Holland.

‘I will never forget Edwin standing on my doorstep to tell me that a plane had crashed with Andy and his mother on board,’ Ten Hag recalled.

‘That was a huge blow. At his funeral I carried Andy’s coffin with other team-mates. It happened on June 7, 1989, and every year on that date I have a day of mourning.’

Ten Hag’s life has been profoundly affected by deaths of Andy Scharmin (L) and Gino Weber (R)

Scharmin’s death isn’t the only tragedy that still haunts Ten Hag. Gino Weber, his friend and former youth team-mate at Twente, committed suicide at the age of 33 after his career had been derailed by injuries.

Ten Hag’s mentor Epi Drost had a fatal heart attack in 1995

Weber had suffered from depression and addiction and, after being sentenced to prison for robbery, he was found dead at home in July 2003.

Another member of Twente’s youth-team squad, Wilfried Elzinga, saw his career cruelly cut short by injury.

Those close to Ten Hag believe the 52-year-old has been driven to succeed by his friends’ misfortune, as if determined to seize the opportunities they never had.

He rejected the chance to join his brothers in the family’s business, and instead had a modest playing career in his home country as a centre back before excelling as a coach.

His philosophy has been heavily influenced by his mentor and former youth-team coach Epi Drost, who died of a heart attack aged 49 in 1995.

Ten Hag enjoyed a modest playing career in his home country before excelling as a coach

‘I often think back to my youth at Twente,’ said Ten Hag. ‘Three boys were so good they could have made it to the national team. But one of them was seriously injured and two other boys died young. It puts everything into perspective.

‘Epi Drost was my idol. He was a fan of adventurous football. He stimulated creativity, because that was the most important thing to him. Epi died due to a cardiac arrest during a match. That was a massive blow for me.’